This is my ongoing series of "red flags" I've been making over the last year or so about dating, relationships and people in general. This series is inspired in part by the cultural pressure placed on women to be clairvoyants when it comes to men's intentions. Society often blames women for not predicting men's behaviour, as opposed to blaming men for mistreating women in the first place. This encourages women to internalise blame and feel ashamed for not "seeing" the red flags. These red flags are about some of the things I've learnt:
"Just because you couldn't see someone's red flags doesn't mean you deserved to be treated badly"
"When they expect you to be their girlfriend, without being your boyfriend"
"they only want you when they can't have you"
"When acquaintances love them but people who know them hate them"
"When people derail conversations about social issues because they're not about them"
"When they refer to women as females"
"When they think compassion and emotional intelligence are signs of weakness"
